Emotional reactions happen at work all of the time. However, if you can defuse or de-escalate the energy in your emotion (by venting or working-through, for example, in private), you are then better positioned to negotiate successfully and get what you would like.
Complimenting the people you work with for things big or small is free, easy and feels great (for both the giver and recipient)! It also pays huge intrinsic dividends and sets a healthy example.
Effective listening is so important in the workplace for connecting with colleagues and maintaining relationships. However, don't underestimate how taxing it is for your brain. To listen patiently without interruption and to give the other person lots of space to speak is incredibly difficult. Yet, honing this skill is very worthwhile and powerful.
Where have the Authentic posts been? All Things Emotional? Relationship Toolkit? Workplace Tips?
While I was working towards further clinical and professional qualifications last year, the posting had to pause. However, they will all be back next week, so stay tuned. Feel free to submit questions or favourite topics to me in the meantime (or anytime) on what you might like to see posted.
A great way to get past an inconvenient yet real emotion at work is to acknowledge it without judgment and thus be aware of it. It may not go away completely, but it is less likely to influence your communications, out of your control.
Devaluing language and behaviour in the workplace is common, although extremely toxic. Organisational leaders can tackle this by modelling alternative feedback strategies and by explicitly not rewarding people for devaluing others.
In 2019, what self-supportive actions will you take in order to help you accomplish your professional goals? Will you journal daily, engage in professional development, devote time to your peer network, invest more time in your health or other?
Take time to reflect on this year's work undertaken and perhaps completed. Write down a few of your important accomplishments, a few regrets that you have had and some notable unexpected events. You can do this for yourself and for your team.
Know your audience at work, whether it is one person, several hundred or a marketplace. You will be in a better position to persuade and motivate. Taking time to get to know individuals and groups that you collaborate with will pay dividends.
At work, some people are happy to be helped if they don't know something. Other people feel shame when they are offered help. It's worth noticing if someone is not enthusiastically accepting your help as you might alienate them if you continue.
The Workplace Weekly Tips Series is focused on healthy workplace functioning and professional development. All material is authored by Cori Lambert unless explicitly stated otherwise. Authentic Consulting and Counselling is located in West Perth, Greater Perth Area.