A great way to get past an inconvenient yet real emotion at work is to acknowledge it without judgment and thus be aware of it. It may not go away completely, but it is less likely to influence your communications, out of your control.
Devaluing language and behaviour in the workplace is common, although extremely toxic. Organisational leaders can tackle this by modelling alternative feedback strategies and by explicitly not rewarding people for devaluing others.
In 2019, what self-supportive actions will you take in order to help you accomplish your professional goals? Will you journal daily, engage in professional development, devote time to your peer network, invest more time in your health or other?
Take time to reflect on this year's work undertaken and perhaps completed. Write down a few of your important accomplishments, a few regrets that you have had and some notable unexpected events. You can do this for yourself and for your team.
Know your audience at work, whether it is one person, several hundred or a marketplace. You will be in a better position to persuade and motivate. Taking time to get to know individuals and groups that you collaborate with will pay dividends.
At work, some people are happy to be helped if they don't know something. Other people feel shame when they are offered help. It's worth noticing if someone is not enthusiastically accepting your help as you might alienate them if you continue.
Stay 'high' when evaluating someone's performance at work. When we think about preserving the dignity of the other person while we work through issues, everyone will feel better afterwards and future difficult conversations will become less so.
At work, when discussing issues that are tense or difficult that may involve strong emotions and feelings, start with something relatively simple. 'Dip your toe in the water' and get comfortable, instead of plunging straight into the deep end.
A great way to reset your physical tension related to workplace stress is to exercise. Whether it is a group class, a walk, run or other activity, moving the body helps to release what you are holding, so you can continue more effectively.
A great way to become more aware in the workplace is to acknowledge that there are things that we do not know that we don't know we don't know. One strategy to know these things is to listen to outside opinions and consider them critically.
The Workplace Weekly Tips Series is focused on healthy workplace functioning and professional development. All material is authored by Cori Lambert unless explicitly stated otherwise. Authentic Consulting and Counselling is located in West Perth, Greater Perth Area.